| Abstinence | A change in our behavior that involves stopping the addictive pattern - one day, sometimes one minute, at a time. Abstinence is a beginning point in sobriety. |
Acting Out
| To engage in addictive behavior. Engaging in a behavior which is one's bottom line, is often referred to as having a slip. |
| Anorexia | The compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment. |
Bottom-Line Behaviors
| Generally, self-defined activities which we refrain from in order to experience our physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual wholeness. |
Boundaries
| Self-defined, self-protective limits we use for interaction with persons, places, things, or activities. |
Cross-talk
| Sometimes known as "feedback". To respond directly or indirectly to what someone who shared in a meeting; for example, to offer someone answers to his or her problems, or to engage in dialogue during the meeting. |
| Group Conscience | A process of decision-making by the group. S.L.A.A. encourages all members to express their views. |
| Inventory or "Moral" Inventory | A list of qualities within a person, both positive and negative, discovered through self-examination. Also to take someone else's inventory: to judge another person's life or sobriety.
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| Isolation | To withdraw from the help and healing process of others, program support, or our Higher Power. Isolation often leads to or accompanies a slip. Isolation may also be a form of acting out for anorectic members. |
| S.L.A.A. Member | Any S.L.A.A. participant who has a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. |
Sobriety
| Initially, a state of abstinence from addictive bottom-line behaviors; often accompanied by the return of sanity, choice, and personal dignity that comes from abstaining from bottom-line behaviors. |
| Sobriety Date | Generally, the date we stop engaging in our bottom-line behaviors. |
Sponsor
| A person who works closely with another member to provide individual support and guidance in applying the S.L.A.A. Twelve Step/Twelve Tradition program. A sponsor should be a person we are not in danger of acting out with, nor are likely to find intrigue with. |
| Trigger | A person, place, thing, or environment that sets off an urge to act out. |
| Withdrawal | The physical, mental, emotional, and often spiritual upheaval which generally accompanies the break in our addictive pattern. |
| 13th-Stepping | Manipulating another person in recovery, especially a newcomer, into a sexual, emotional, or romantic relationship. |
| Open or Closed Meeting? | S.L.A.A. members highly value our tradition of anonymity. Group conscience determines whether a meeting shall be open or closed. In general, the following guidelines are used: |
| Open Meeting A meeting open to anyone who wants to find out more about recovery from sex and love addiction. |
| Closed Meeting A meeting open only to those having a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. |
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