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Commonly Asked Questions
- Are there Meetings in My City? Go to http://directory.slaafws.org. Everything we have is there.
- Meetings for Spouses/Family? Go to http://www.slaafws.org/family
- How do I Attend a Meeting? There are no "sign-ups" or registration, simply show up. If you are traveling a great distance and if the meeting provides email or phone contact, you may want to contact them to verify that they are still meeting.
This document is undergoing a major update and will soon be much more thorough and helpful to all facets of the Fellowship. Questions have been selected here that are relevant to Professionals and the Media. You will see skipped questions which are covered in other sections. STAY TUNED!
Media/Professionals, please call 1-210-828-7900 for information about S.L.A.A.
Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc. (F.W.S.)
Q2. What’s the difference between S.L.A.A. and S.A. or S.A.A.?
A: We are all Twelve Step programs focusing on sexual addiction. S.L.A.A. includes love addiction, relationship, and sexual anorexia. Other “S” programs may also have different membership requirements and bottomline definitions.
Q3. Is this program anonymous?
A: Anonymity is a basic principle in our Fellowship, according to Tradition 12. Each member of the program is asked to respect that all members of S.L.A.A. are anonymous; that is, first name and last initial are the only known information of the individual member. It is also requested that meeting discussion, details, etc., be kept in the strictest confidence, making the program widely available to those who need it. However, we are not anonymous to each other. First and last names are used in several situations within the context of business at the F.W.S. office, e.g., making a donation, making a reservation at the Annual Business Meeting and International Recovery Convention, receiving a mailing, etc.
Q5. What are meetings like?
A. Our meetings are an opportunity for members to relate their stories about recovery from sex and love addiction. Members identify themselves by first name only and will share their experience, strength, and hope. Our stories disclose what we were like, what happened to change us, and what we are like now. Meetings may have different formats. Meetings may have formats relating to Step Study, Newcomer, Speaker, Getting Current, etc. Meetings may be closed (for members only) or open to all persons.
Q6. How much does it cost to attend meetings?
A: There are no dues or fees for S.L.A.A. membership, according to Tradition 7. Typically, an offering basket is passed for voluntary contributions at meetings.
Q8. Are there meetings for people that are married to Sex and Love addicts? (Or living with, sibling of, parents of, etc…)
A: Yes, there are three groups that have information for people whose lives are affected by sex and love addicts – S-Anon (615-833-3152; http://www.sanon.org/); COSA (763-537-6904; http://www.cosa-recovery.org/) and CO-SLAA (860-456-0032; http://www.coslaa.org/).
Q9. I don’t believe in God. Can I still go to meetings?
A: You are not required to believe in God to attend meetings. The program is spiritual in nature and includes the belief in a Higher Power, but it is not affiliated with any religion, sect, or denomination. Your concept of a Higher Power can be whatever you want it to be. Some use the group itself as something more powerful than themselves.
Q14. What’s an Intergroup?
A: An Intergroup is two or more groups in an area that work together to achieve the primary purpose of the S.L.A.A. program and who meet on a regular basis. The Intergroup acts as a link between the individual groups in their area and S.L.A.A. as a whole.
Q15. Who attends S.L.A.A. meetings? What kind of people?
A. The only qualification for S.L.A.A. membership is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. Addiction can take many forms, including but not limited to, a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue, and fantasy. Sex and love addiction may also take the form of anorexia, a compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment. We are united in a common focus: dealing with our addictive sexual and emotional behavior which renders any personal differences of sexual or gender orientation irrelevant.
Q19. Are there meetings for ex-offenders?
A. While this may be a special interest meeting offered in some localities, our meetings are open to anyone who thinks s/he may have a pattern of sex and love addiction.
THE 7TH TRADITION
Q24. What do we do with the money we collect at meetings?
A: It is described in more detail in the “60/40 Pamphlet,” but basically after your group meets its basic expenses, it is suggested that you send 60% of the remainder to your local Intergroup and 40% to F.W.S. In addition, a group should keep a prudent reserve (amount to be determined by the group; usually months’ worth of operating expenses). If your area does not have an Intergroup, it is suggested that the entire amount is donated to the F.W.S. Office.
Q25. Where does the money go (at F.W.S.)?
A: This list is not intended to be exhaustive, but it will give you a general concept about where your contributions go: Printing and postage; manufacture of products (books, pamphlets, World Directory, the Journal, F.W.S. Newsletter, medallions, chips, flyers, ABM materials, etc,); salaries of staff members; payroll taxes; unemployment insurance; employee benefits; education and training of staff; utilities; rent; telecommunication expenses; service contracts (e.g., copiers); shipping supplies; BOT travel and phone (although some members donate their expenses to F.W.S.); and Conference committee budgets.
Q31. Do you have literature in other languages?
A: Some of our literature is currently being translated into other languages.
Q32. How much does a book cost? Pamphlets? Etc.?
A. There are discounts available when purchasing larger quantities of the products. Click on "Online Orders" at the top of this page to be taken to our online store.
Q33. Can I get free literature?
A. There are four pamphlets that are available free: “12 Recommended Guidelines for Dealing with the Media”; “Supporting S.L.A.A. the 60/40 Way”; “Addicted to Sex? Addicted to Love?”; “For the Professional: Information about S.L.A.A..” and the “FAQ.” To find these pamphlets online, navigate to www.slaafws.org, select the “Member Resources” menu, then “Literature” and then “Pamphlets.”
Q34. Can I get an Info packet?
A: You can contact the F.W.S. office with your request at www.slaafws.org.
Q35. Can we send literature to prisons?
A. There is a process by which a prisoner can request literature. This process is overseen by a volunteer committee, the Prison Outreach Committee.
Q36. Can you send my neighbor/boyfriend/friend some pamphlets?
A: No, we cannot give information to third parties. However, if you need additional information, there is a free pamphlet available called, “Addicted to Sex? Addicted to Love?” that might help you. This is information about S.L.A.A. for you or for someone you know. You can find this pamphlet on our free pamphlet download page.
Q37. How do I get help for a client/patient?
A: There is a free pamphlet available titled, “For the Professional: Information about S.L.A.A.” In addition, there might be an Intergroup of S.L.A.A. in your area that sponsors a phone line or website that might have meeting information listed. Also, there is a staff member at the F.W.S. office that specializes in outreach requests such as these.
Q39. Can I copy a Conference-approved pamphlet to my personal website? To a meeting/Intergroup website?
A. No. You may not copy a Conference-approved pamphlet to a personal website or to a meeting or Intergroup website. Unless explicitly permitted to do so, in writing, by the copyright owner, which is F.W.S. (Fellowship-Wide Services, Inc.), you may not copy a pamphlet to any website or any other media.
Q40. Could you explain more about the 300 word limit for copyrighted items?
A. In 1999, the BOT established the following policy: “All S.L.A.A.groups/Intergroup registered with FWS have permission to use the S.L.A.A. logo, reprint the Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, and the Twelve Recommended Guidelines for Dealing with the Public Media, and reproduce up to 300 words from S.L.A.A. conference-approved copyrighted material. Only a 300 word total for any one publication (or any one use) may be copied from S.L.A.A. with express written permission from FWS. All S.L.A.A. logo reproductions must include the trademark symbol, [R in a circle]. All citations and excerpts must include the source for the citation and the statement, ’Reprinted with permission as registered group #____, by the Augustine Fellowship, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, Fellowship-Wide Services.’